Do you think that you are the most important person in you life? I know that you are, but I also know that feeling like you are the most important person is a different matter. In the therapy room I meet similar themes such as shame, anxiety, difficulty with boundaries, comparing to others and not feeling like being yourself is good enough.
Because in therapy that’s what we are going for – good enough. People are often amazed when we meet when I explain that life doesn’t have to be black and white, or good or bad, but it’s more of living in the grey and enjoying the day to day parts of the life.
Of course there are events and times to celebrate, but most of life is enjoying being you in your life in those day to day things that bring you joy. But what if those things don’t bring you joy?
Well, in therapy there are two things we can do. Firstly, we can look at your needs and are they being met across your life? Think of breaking down your life into simple to understand areas such as sleep, nutrition, exercise, friends, fun, lifestyle choices and who you spend your time with. Remember that connection is at the essence of being a human being; we thrive when we are feeling connected to ourselves and others.
And this is where things can get exciting! You can be the author of your own life and play around with things you might like to try, pause doing things that don’t feel so good and explore new ventures. I’ve recently started surfing and wow, what fun it is bringing into my life.
It’s so important that you are #1 in your life because when you focus on you, there is less comparison, questioning of yourself, your boundaries are stronger and emotionally and logistically life is in balance. No, it’s not selfish, it’s actually the greatest gift you can offer yourself and those around you because you are taking control and responsibility of you.
To help you create the life you want to live, I’ve created a 2022 Diary which helps you to integrate your self-care into your life. I take you through a simple 3 step process to understand your needs and how to fit these into your life so that life is in balance. You can invest in yours here, for only €27.99, and it is printed here in Cork.
So if you’re ready to be you, grab your 2022 Diary now and create the life you want to live by helping you be #1.
Bethan is a Psychotherapist who meets clients online or in person in her practice in Blarney. If you’re a parent grab your free 5 Steps To Calmer Parenting now so that life is easier.