Q: How can I unlearn the ways of my upbringing and acknowledge my childhood trauma? I want to assure you that it is possible to unlearn the ways of your upbringing. However, it requires you to acknowledge your childhood trauma with a psychotherapist. I see...
Q: I try my best to be a gentle, respectful parent, but I am not always the best at staying calm and I can be a yeller. I am looking for more strategies to keep myself accountable and be the parent my children need. I...
The first word that comes to mind is respect, though not in the direction you may suspect. You must show your teenager respect. It’s so easy to get into a ding dong with pre-teens (and teens) and create rifts in relationships that, in my therapeutic...
Isn’t parenting guilt a big, heavy dark emotion? Did you know that guilt is our in-built mechanism for doing no harm? It’s like a reflex that comes on board without you ever having invited it to show up. What I am saying is that guilt isn’t...
Each week I answer one of your parenting questions. This week I answer "how can I set boundaries that work?", I hope the response helps you to be the parent you'd like to be. When I meet with parents, there are many reasons they find...